ACCEPTANCE AND SELF-ESTEEM
It’s not something you can learn overnight, and a guide that works for everyone doesn’t exist. You have to be patient with yourself, and ACCEPT things.
Remember that your stoma doesn't define you. It's a new part of you that helps you be healthy again andachieve anything you want. Learn to look at yourself in a new way. In a way that sees the unique and extraordinary woman you are. In a way that knows you can combine femininity and ostomy.
But it’s by accepting, respecting and loving ourselves a bit more every day that we will reach an outcome. We will like ourselves, and feel good and at peace with ourselves. That is what good self-esteem is.
Does your pouch really prevent you from going out? Or are you the one limiting yourself because of your stoma? Does your pouch prevent you from living your life fully? Or does it enable you to live? In my opinion, you wouldn’t be here, alive, if not for your pouch! You would probably constantly be in the bathroom, and you would miss a lot of activities. Then it would be true that the disease, and not your stoma, would prevent you from doing things.
We all went through hardships that have forced us to adjust to them. Inflammatory bowel diseases (IBDs) are tests in themselves that cause people to adjust to their disease and accept themselves. This is not something easy to do for a person suffering from an IBD.
I am pleased to write these few lines for the first time. Living with a stoma may seem alarming on many levels. By collaborating with ANA & Me, I wish to support you during your adjustment and transition period, address your concerns and help you embrace your new life, your new image, your sexuality and your desire to become a parent one day. Once you’re past the acceptance phase, you will realize that it’s possible to live with a stoma and continue to thrive in both your personal and professional life.