LIFE AS A COUPLE
When you are ready, make sure to calm your fears and go at your own pace when reintroducing sexuality in your life. This can be hard to do for some people, but to make this transition easier I suggest focusing on pleasure instead of on a particular way of living your sexuality. A world of possibilities will then open up to you, because you can experience pleasure in multiple ways.
I think the most important thing is to feel comfortable with someone. Feel like you are pretty despite your flaws. This played a big role in my self-esteem after getting my stoma.
I think starting a company with your lover is kind of like having a child, as you build it over multiple months before it’s “born”. Starting your business also means discovering another side of your partner and learning to love them differently in order to become stronger.
I was scared of the things Andréanne would have to face when she’d wake up, and I wasn’t sure what to expect when I’d see her. That’s when I told myself that nothing could change: Andréanne had an ostomy, and I’d have to get used to that new little pouch.
One morning, my beautiful Andréanne, who weighted 40 lbs less, left Beauce with her mom and her medical record that was as thick as a bible. They were going to Sherbrooke to meet a new gastroenterologist. I honestly believe this doctor was an angel for her.
Our couple had reached a point where we could no longer control or decide which activities we wanted to do. It was as if there was someone else with us who was deciding everything for us: Could we go to the restaurant, to the movies, take a walk outside, and even make love.